Have you noticed how the world around us is devaluing life more and more? It is so important that we create an environment for our children that teaches them that every life is valuable. I thought it would be helpful to share with you six ways to teach our children to value life .
- Let your children always see you celebrating the life of a new baby! Let them be a part of bringing a meal to a family that just had a baby, perhaps picking out a gift for a new baby. Talk to them about babies in the womb and how they are being knit together by God Himself. My kids LOVE babies. This blesses my heart so much as they find joy in new life.
- Don’t let your children hear you complaining about children and what a bother they are. I can’t tell you how many times I have been around conversations where all I hear is how burdensome children are. Many of the times the children are listening. It is okay to have difficult days and want to talk about it with a friend, but we need to have boundaries. This kind of talk teaches a child that they themselves are a burden or that children are a burden. This hurts their value. It also shapes the way they view pregnancy. They can begin to determine that a new baby is more of a burden than a blessing. In a world where babies are thrown away, we do not want our children’s thinking to be shaped in this way.
- Teach your children to honor the elderly. They should be taught to open doors, pull out chairs, give up their seat to the elderly. In a society where older people are brushed aside, we need to be sure to teach our children about the wealth of wisdom that the older generations have to offer, and how to show them proper respect. Visiting a nursing home, helping an older neighbor or even going out of your way to say hello speaks volumes to our children.
- Don’t talk badly about others in front of your children. Don’t talk badly about people ever, for that matter! Everyone is made in the image of God, even that one person you just can’t stand. When we talk badly about others, it teaches our children that we can determine people’s value by our thoughts and words. This is not true, it is just a perception. Your child’s perception of others should be shaped by learning about God’s great love for all of mankind, not shaped by our loose lips.
- Children need to know their own great value! They need to know that their life has purpose and meaning. They need to hear they are special, that God has a plan for them. May our children never have room in their hearts for the lies of the enemy that say they are worth nothing. We think that this isn’t possible because surely they know how valuable we think they are. Do not assume this. They need to hear it and feel it. Most importantly they need to know that their value comes from their creator.
- Leave a legacy of showing value of life! Be aware of what your life is speaking to your children. Live with intention and ask God for wisdom. Maybe you struggle to know how deeply you yourself are valued. It is so important that you ask God to show you the truth of His great love for you. Your heart will then be able to reveal this great love and value in greater measure to others, especially your children.
Sarah Jane Roberts