This is the first article of the week in the Release It segment. Before you begin take a deep breath; this won’t be easy for all. Say a prayer for God’s hand to guide you and start with this link with the talented Matthew West and then read.
It’s there. It’s deep. It hurts.
There is not one person on this planet that can say they have not been wronged by another person. No one can say they have not been hurt by someone. Hurt that is emotional, physical, spiritual. It all hurts. What we do with that emotional and psychological hurt is what matters.
I am one who keeps feelings inside. I do not like hard confrontation in any circumstance. It is hard for me to let things go. (No, really. Ask my husband.) I hold on to my hurt feelings and pain until one day I’ve reached the boiling point and spewed over and scorched not only me, but those around me. I have been married nearly fifteen years now (YAY ME!!). I can honestly say that there have been more hard moments than anything and just in the last couple years I have realized that even though confrontation is the least desired path of healing for me, I know it is what is best. I have not perfected this by any means (again, ask my husband), but I am a work in progress; um we all are. I can’t let an argument that ended with my feelings and pride being hurt linger inside and boil. That boiling resolves into trouble because I explode after a while; boiling fragments of words and well, saliva. I literally loose it and yell and scream and have been known to throw a few things (not at people). Told you I’m not perfect! When that happens it isn’t me needing to forgive, but I am the one needing forgiveness.
Luke 6:37-38 states, “Do not judge and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.” (NIV) Forgive. It takes us using all that humility within us to just forgive because in that moment not only are you forgiving the wrong done to you, but you are also being forgiven. Most often the hurt happens because there are two or more hurting each other, yep the guilt lands on both. “For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins” Matthew 6:14. This is not what we want. We want to know that we can repent and be forgiven, but if we are harboring ill feelings because of something that has wronged us, we are no better than those who have hurt us. It takes an extraordinary person to become meek, lowly and tame to forgive an offense. I’m still learning that with each circumstance in humility, my story is different and I have to come to the point where I accept that Christ gave everything for me. Why would I not do the same for those I love. Most hurt happens between those we love and trust the most in this world. It makes sense that we would need to come to our most humble self and forgive in all places.
This forgiveness does not mean that we have approved of sinful behavior. Jesus did not approve of the adulterous behavior of the woman at the well, but He accepted her as being valuable and worthy of His love. We need to recognize the worth of others. Our behavior needs to reflect a caring friendliness to them in spite of what they have done.
I pray, Lord, this hurt is not what You have desired for me. I know that in my human existence I cannot forgive on my own and need You with me. Take all the hurt and pain; all the broken pieces and mend them. Give me compassion for those who have offended me, Lord. Amen.
Further Reading in Scriptures: Numbers 14:18-20, Jeremiah 31:34
Continue with us each day this week to learn more on forgiveness and what it means. This isn’t easy for us all to read, I am one of those. God brought me to a point where I was in literal pain because I wouldn’t forgive others or myself. It’s time to RELEASE IT!!!